Sunday, July 29, 2012

Los Angelitos

We heard last week that we would most likely be traveling in September instead of August.  Plane tickets are 1/3 of the price in September, which is nice, but the news still got us down.

Really down.

Then I read a blog about the Christian perspective on stress and sadness.  What did Jesus do the night before he was to be crucifed, definetly feeling the most stressed he'd felt?  He served.  He washed their feet.

"Let's go to Los Angelitos this Saturday," I told Andrew.  "I think it's the best way to deal with the news, and with how we feel.  Plus, I just want to see the girls."

"I'll email Ed right now," he said, ready.

We had actually already been gathering donations for a while, but I just never found the time to go.  We got a few more bags of donations from some friends in the couple days before we left, and we completely cleaned out the garage.  "Ask Ed if he wants this microwave I bought at the garage sale for $10 that we didn't end up using."

"He said he really does," said Andrew.  Perfect.  We both went through our closets one more time, tossing articles out behind us, made some more space.  I was actually feeling better already.



Our awesome friends Jared and Nicole said yes to the last minute trip, and met us at our house in the early morning while Finley slept at Grandma and Grandpa's house.

The car had floor to ceiling donations, we prayed and hit the road.


Ed warned us that most people can't bring donations through the border any more and that he is often turned around and sent back trying to bring stuff down.  We didn't know how it would go.

Adios Estados Unidos!

A woman with a clip board approached our car, "You need to turn around and go there with all these undocumented items in bags," the stern boarder crossing woman told us, as bags fell on her feet when she opened the trunk.  We lined up with other trucks and vans who were parked, people waiting outside with their families or friends.

Us waiting for our bags to be checked!  Smiles on!
 The officers walked up.  "Hola!" Andrew smiled at them.

"Hablas Espanol?"

"Si!" he said.  "Pero ella mejor que yo," he said pointing at me as I walked up.

"Pues, no es obvio?  Mira su pelo, es un pelirojo!" I said to them, laughing.

"Oh, si," they said, smiling now too.

They looked over our stuff as we chatted with them, rifles on their backs.

"Esta tiempo (this time...), puedes ir (you can go)  Pero la proxima vez, no puedes traer cosa como estos" (you can't bring stuff like this) one of the men told me.

"GRACIAS!!!!!"  I said, ecstatic.  I didn't realize how strict they had become, sending so many home.  We were so happy we could bring this stuff to our girls.  We hopped in the car and were on our way.

Los Angelitos had just moved from their old home to "The Ranch," of open land and horses, even a trampoline.

Here were our directions:

"Well, the directions don't come up on google, so I'll just email them to you by memory," Ed the director told us the day before we left.

"Uhhh....


ok!" we told him.  Worth a shot, I suppose. The second direction literally said, "When you get to the red light, turn right."  What if the light is green, Andrew said.  Oh boy!  Good thing our travel companions were so amazing, we had the best time in the car, getting delirious over our inside jokes.

We wound around roads of sheep and cattle, of crumbling houses, clinging to the sides of hills for dear life, by brushfires and dessert landscapes.  A man on horseback herding his cattle with his dog up a dusty incline.  Ragged clothes hung on lines, graffiti danced on each corner, and people sold food on the road out of coolers.

"Umm....maybe this random dirt road, I bet we're kinda close to kilometer 22, there's no marker.  I don't know, just turn here on this hairpin."  A few minutes down the dusty, brown road, there was indeed a split in the road after this turn, like the directions said, so we kept left and pulled up to a gate, and found this really prominent sign!

How could anyone miss this sign in the dirt, right? ;)
We saw two girls running down the dirt hill to greet us, and open the gate.  Andrew and I have been coming down here to these girls for 8 years.






We unloaded all the donations into the bodega and the Nelson's got to meet Ed.  "How did you guys bring the stuff through the boarder?!" he asked, very surprised.  "We have no idea!" we said happily.



The last time we were able to come was when I was 6 months pregnant, so they all wanted to hear about baby Finley.  They crowded around while I showed pictures from my phone, and told them little stories about him.

"Awwwwww!" they squealed. 


The Ranch was AMAZING!!  Such an upgrade for the girls.

"Y ahora tenemos conejos!" they told me. 


"Vamos, yo quiero verles!" les dije.


How amazing is Nicole?  She jumped right in and loved these sweet girls.

Our special Abby girl.  We met her when she was 3.

The bunnies are good therapy for the girls.
Serving is rough

This bunny's name is Bonnis.  Bonnis is the 'baby' of one of the girls.  "Yo conozco mi bebe mas que todos," she told us.


Bonnis' mama.



I asked them all about their lives.  They said they started homeschooling because they can't afford private school any more.  Ed told us he will not allow them to go to public school because of how rampant drugs are.  (You can get a days worth of heroin for $5, not cool)

I told them about our adoption.

About how amazing God is, and how afraid we were to listen to Him at first.

Showed them all the pictures and a couple videos.

"How did you chose them?" Nadia asked me.

"Well," I said, gauging her face.  This sweet girl who we have known since she was little, who is now 16.  "Well, we wanted to adopt from Mexico, but the laws won't allow it, but their country will," I told her.

"Oh!" she said, suprised and relieved.

"See," I told her, "that's why you need to become a lawyer, so that you can change laws and help kids here get into homes and families."  I had just asked all the girls to go around and tell me what they want to be after they graduated from the University.

"Tienen argumentos, tu y Andres?" Nadia asked me (If Andrew and I had arguments)  My time with the girls each time is always so short, but they remember each thing I tell them from year to year, and always remind me.  "Remember when you told us about how you got engaged!?" they would ask.
It's interesting to me how much young people long for mentorship.  How much they hang on your every word, if you happen to sit down with them, so I just told them the truth;

I looked over at Andrew talking to Ed, and I told them, "Sometimes we argue yes, but to be honest with you girls, my life is blessed each and everyday because of Andrew and because I was so careful to chose the man I would date before we got married.  The most important thing is that Andrew loves God more than anything, more than himself, more than money, more than me, more than everything, and it makes all the difference.  Andrew loves and serves our family.  He loves and serves others.  He is willing to travel the world and adopt our two babies.  I didn't date just anyone who asked, you have to be very, very careful," I told them, as I scanned around, their eyes focused on mine.

"There are going to be many, many young men interested in you guys, but don't rush it.  Let God write your love story and it will be better than you can imagine.  Choose wisely.  You are already so, so loved."



They wanted to see pictures of our two new additions over, and over.  To hear about the babies, about our meeting them.  About two orphans getting families.  "Raise your hand if you want to adopt one day!" I asked.  A few of them did.

"Amy, cuando vamos a la Universidad, en el tercer ano, podemos obtener la visa..." (When we are in college, we can get our visa...)

"SI!  Y me van a visitar!" I told them.  They lit up, hoping I would say that! (Yes, and you will come visit me!)

"Vamos a tener un BBQ, y ir a un restaurante, y ir a la playa!" I told them.




We truly, truly had a wonderful day at the ranch. 





Pray for sweet J on the right.  My heart breaks for her.

Then it was time to play hedbanz!

I don't have favorites...but if I did...


Another favorite




Thank you girls.  We seriously had an amazing visit.  We love you so much.  Our hearts feel so much better too.

And in the border wait on the way home, we dined!  "Do I smell cake?" We had churros, chili mangos, Bolis and soda.  Mmmmmmm!

We sang songs.  "Crazy church people think it's normal to sing together!"


I guess Jesus is pretty smart about this whole life thing.  What is the normal response to feeling sad while trying to make yourself feel better?  I suppose I can think of a few destructive ones.  But our hearts felt so full and happy after our dusty day at Los Angelitos.

Plus our garage is as clean as a whistle!

And I couldn’t help but remember how many times in the past I had filled my heart with petty complaints, my own selfish wants, and my own desires- that truly don’t even matter. How much time had I wasted focusing on my own little world… when the world around me was crying out for God?  And for me to get over myself and love.

Andrew is planning a guys trip sometime next month where they will camp out on the ranch and do some manual labor, planting trees and building with his friends.  Man, we love Mexico so much, what an amazing place.





My phone's verse of the day:

"Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.  Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people..." Galations 6:9-10

Seems fitting

Friday, July 27, 2012

Love and Mercy

From and incredible post by Jen Hatmaker, please read in it's entirety:

'"I’m sick of the Jesus forwards and judgment. Sick of majoring on gay marriage. Enough, everyone. With every hate Tweet and finger jab and Bible bludgeon, you are telling my gay friends they are indeed unwelcome, unloved, unvalued, and uninvited. If your agenda is to battle homosexuality, how’s that going? How many gay folks read your Prop 8 yard sign, knocked on your door, and said, “Thank you for voicing your opinion to the neighbors in this manner. Would you kindly invite me in and teach me how to be straight? And do you have a Bible study I can join?”'

Another favorite excerpt from the many she wrote:

'We love Jesus, who was always in hot water with the religious folks for eating with sinners and offering scandalous grace not just to the leper but to the tax collector.

We love people. Because Jesus does. All of them.

We love grace, because it rescued all of us sinners.

We love healing and redemption, and we get to be a part of that every day, if we are brave enough to say yes.

We love that Jesus uses broken people, because that is our zip code and He chooses us anyway. Mercy is our only sane option.'


 
Thank you Jen Hatmaker, I am now your fan.

Thursday, July 26, 2012

DIY Kids Art Table

We finally got out the saw, and went to work on the free table we found on the side of the road, next to a car shop.


Look out table, you're officially being DIY-ed!


My careful husband, measuring.




And Voila!!

A little art and breakfast table in our kitchen with a garden view, just the perfect size for a little boy (or two! :)  We have been doing a lot of play dough, and coloring here in the past few days.  And since it's a pretty beat up table, I'm thinking some finger paints will be in order soon!




Finley's little friends have been loving the table as well.  Just call us, Brockhaus Preschool!

A serious cowboy eating a watermelon snack

Playdough and cookie cutters

"WE LOVE ART!!!"
They are many layers to how amazing this adoption road has been, and the opportunity to be crafty and thrifty is one of the many!  Our mini art table is definitely Dave Ramsey approved, and adoption budget worthy!

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Just when...



I feel like my arms can't remember your weight.

 

Like my mind can't remember your exact smell.



When my eyes have finally refused to look at any pictures.








I realize that July is almost over.

And that makes this the most productive July of my life.

How many others can say that this month brought them one month closer to bringing two orphans into their family forever?

And I realize we are doing it.  We are close.  Closer than I even begin to think.

Hang on babies.

I know it's hard.

But mama and papa are so close to you.  So close to taking you in our arms and hightailing it outta there.  And into home.  Into family.  Into love and never being forgotten again.




And in my moments of discomfort, I remind myself of these words by Francis Chan:

“But God doesn't call us to be comfortable.   He calls us to trust Him so completely that we are unafraid to put ourselves in situations where we will be in trouble if He doesn't come through.” 

Monday, July 23, 2012

Milroy Baby Cowboy Party




The Milroy baby is on his way so we organized a cowboy party to celebrate.  Andrew even took the wood from the old bunk bed and made a corn hole game for all our guests to play.

The kids put on hats, ran through the dirt and ate lots of watermelon.


A family cowboy baby shower.






Aaron cooked the best pulled pork you've ever had, and Kelly organized a picture perfect day.  All we had to do was host!


"Look guilty that you have 3 hot dogs on your plate."
Nailed it

All the gifts for baby Daniel






"Mom, I seriously don't think this horse knows how to gallop..."

Serious corn hole competition.


With little cowboys wanting hugs.




Cheering on papas

Yay daddy!


And eating pie




What an angel




His best party trick

And when everyone packed up and went home, we put some logs in the fire pit we had just made out of some stones.  We got out a couple marshmallows and roasted them late into the night.


We can't wait to meet you little Daniel!  We loved celebrating you this day, and can't wait to celebrate your birth!